Well, I'm either so LEET that I'm beyond help, or no one cares.
Either way I ended up having to write my own module basically combining the cck textfield and the cck nodereference to get the functionality my customer wanted.
It wasn't that hard actually considering I have no idea where the cck api developers guide is.
So, in case someone else needs something similar. I offer my stupid module for usage purposes. :)
I figured I'd just create a page, because I'll probably have more over time.
http://tomwillis.sonicdiscord.com/drupal_modules.html
Thomas G. Willis