[support] module for user contact form control

Hi I'm new, please go easy on me. I've been looking through the modules for Drupal 6.x and I can't quite match what I'm looking for, what i want to be able to do is have a user role that can access personal contact forms (if the user has allowed them) e.g. anonymous can't see the personal contact form authenticated user can't see the personal contact form gold_authenticated user *can* see the personal contact form *if* the user has allowed it any ideas? TIA