[support] swf tools, flv on other domain

Hi, I setup the swftools module and all works fine. Now I would like to host the flv files on a faster server, I have tried adding : $conf = array( 'swftools_media_url' => 'http://flvsite.com' ); to my settings.php file, but the movies won't load. I figured that flash might be restricted to loading flvs from the same domain, so I put the whole flash_media_player directory on the other host, and set the Default flash player path to : http://flvsite.com/flash_media_player and I tried http://flvsite.com

but the File handling page alsays shows Flash Media Player - Jeroen Wijering - Missing

Does anyone know the best procedure for hosting flvs on a remote server? Or should i try one of the many other media modules?

Thanks.